Picture this. An 86-year-old woman named Nina is sitting at her computer in New York City.  A window pops up on her screen. It says her bank account has been hacked. She’s scared.  Who wouldn’t be? 

The voice on the other end of the phone tells her the only way to keep her money safe is to  turn it into gold. So she does what she’s told. Over nine months, she takes out $275,000  from one account. She sends $150,000 to a gold dealer in Texas. She mails a check for  $30,000. She pulls out over $100,000 more from another account. 

By the end, Nina had lost $700,000. Every dollar she had saved in her whole life, gone. And  here’s the part that should make all of us angry: for over 30 years, Nina had never once  taken out more than $5,000 at a time. Then suddenly she was pulling out huge sums, again  and again, and her banks never stopped to ask why. Her family is now suing, saying the  banks should have caught it. But the money is gone, and no lawsuit can undo what  happened to her. Nina’s story is heartbreaking. But it is not rare. 

The Numbers Are Staggering 

Last year, seniors in the United States lost $7.75 billion to scams. That’s not a typo. Billion,  with a B. And that number jumped 59% from the year before, according to the FBI. More  than 201,000 older adults reported being scammed. On average, each person lost about  $38,500. Over 12,000 seniors lost more than $100,000 each. 

Think about what that money means. It’s not extra cash. For most older people, it’s the  retirement fund. It’s the money set aside for medicine, for rent, for a nursing home  someday, for leaving something behind for their grandkids. When it’s gone, it’s gone. 

Scammers go after seniors on purpose. They pretend to be from the bank, or the IRS, or  even a grandchild in trouble. They build fake romances online over months, then ask for  money. They promise huge returns on investments that don’t exist. They use fear,  loneliness, and trust, because those are the things scammers know how to twist. 

Here’s the Part Nobody Tells You 

Most people assume that if you get scammed, your bank will make it right. Give you your  money back. That feels fair, doesn’t it? It usually doesn’t work that way.

Banks are only required by law to pay you back if someone stole from you without your  permission, like if a stranger got your card number and used it without you knowing. But in  most scams, the senior sends the money themselves. They wired it. They handed over the  check. They typed in the transfer, even though they were tricked into doing it. Because they  technically “authorized” the payment, banks usually say it’s not their problem. 

So a grandmother can be manipulated for months, hand over her life savings one wire at a  time, and her bank has no legal duty to give any of it back. That is the harsh truth behind  these numbers. 

What This Means for Families 

This isn’t just a money problem. It’s a dignity problem. It’s about how we protect the people  who raised us, taught us, and worked their whole lives to have something to show for it. 

If you have an older parent, grandparent, or neighbor, talk to them today. Not after  something happens. Today. Let them know that anyone who tells them to keep a call  secret, act fast, or pay in gift cards or gold is lying to them. Real banks and real government  agencies do not work that way. 

Check in on their accounts if they’ll let you. Ask questions when something feels off. And if  something does happen, report it right away, even if it feels embarrassing. Scammers  count on silence and shame to protect themselves. Nina’s family is fighting for her now.  But the best fight is the one we have before the scam ever starts. 

Contributor Bio: Darthula Young is the founder of Rooted in Dignity and a certified end-of-life coach and doula. Drawing on her corporate leadership experience and compassionate approach, she supports individuals and families navigating end-of-life experiences with dignity, peace, and emotional and spiritual care. She holds a BA from Northeastern Illinois University and an MBA from Dominican University.

Sources: FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center 2025 elder fraud data; U.S. Government  Accountability Office; reporting on Nina Mortellito’s case in New York.*